“How vain it is to sit down to write when you have not stood up to live.”
– Henry David Thoreau
While a writer doesn’t have to pack it all up and move to a cabin in the middle of nowhere or travel to the far ends of the planet, it helps to have some interesting stories to pull from.
Sure, most people haven’t almost died on a battlefield, but most of us have experienced something that showed us how quickly life can end — how precious life can be.
Maybe you haven’t traveled deep into rain forests, climbed mountains, or sailed around Cape Horn, but something as simple as seeing parts of your home state most people ignore, or going to a bar and listening to the way people talk and hearing the stories they tell…that matters.
With 24-hour news stations, the Internet, books, and other ways of seeing the world through the eyes of others, I think it’s possible to write good stories while never leaving the comforts of home. But there’s so much more to a passage inspired by something you’ve experienced, rather than something you’ve only read about and imagined.
I can’t imagine Hunter S. Thompson’s writing having the same effect had he imagined it instead of lived it. Robert E. Howard’s boxing stories would have lacked something had he never laced up the gloves himself.
There’s something genuine about writing that comes from somebody who’s lived life, even if the life they live isn’t the life they write about.
There’s a reason so many writers find success later in life: they’ve lived long enough to be convincing.
I avoided trying to write “serious” fiction when I was 20, because I knew it would sound like a 20-year-old trying to write serious fiction.
We’ve all heard the advice, “Write what you know.” Many people take that to mean, “Write autobiographical fiction,” which is usually only interesting to the writer — not readers. What “Write what you know,” really means is, “Write what you’ve experienced.”
Maybe you’ve never lost a loved one in a car accident like a character in something you’re writing, but one can’t get older without losing loved ones and being able to pull from that. When you’ve seen natural wonders in person, it’s easier to write about breathtaking places in stories, even if they’re made up. It’s easier to write about a fight if you’ve been in a couple fights yourself. It’s easier to write about a character’s pain when you know what it’s like to hurt.
To write convincing stories, you have to be able to pull from something you’ve experienced in your life.
In order to do this, you have to have lived!
“‘In the time of your life — live!’ That time is short and it doesn’t return again. It is slipping away while I write this and while you read it, and the monosyllable of the clock is loss, Loss, loss, unless you devote your heart to its opposition.”
– Tennessee Williams
This is what I kept telling myself all those years (I’ve recently rounded 40) when I would shrug and determine I didn’t currently have time to write with any authenticity. I feel I still have lots of life to experience and assimilate, but I have a pretty good tool kit (a term from my current profession) to look through and work with.
Thanks juggler for the reminder.
Steve,
I hit forty on May 26 of 2009. I felt like I hadn’t lived up to the life I told myself I’d have lived by the time I hit 40. In almost every way, I’d hit what I thought my life would be like at 40, with the exception of writing full time.
At 20, I knew I had a long way to go, and figured I’d hit that by 40.
At 40, I know I’m close, but still have a long way to go.
Like you, I have a very long way to still go, and I know that all my writing will just keep getting better. I’ve heard some successful writers say they lost something in their 60s, but I think I’ll still be hungry and striving to push myself even more at 60. (I’m sure people in their 60s are thinking, “I told my punk-ass the same thing at 40,” and maybe they’re right, but I will always strive to be a better writer with each passing week.)
Writing isn’t like athletics, where you hit your stride in your 20s and 30s. With writers, that stride hits in the 40s – 60s, and there’s no better way to find out if that’s true than to work hard and see what writing brings your way.
This blog is as much for me as it is for readers, and maybe there will be a day I look back on this and laugh at how naive and youthful I sound at 40.
But I hope (and expect) that that’s not the case…
I’ve only been writing for 2-3 years, and that’s without having written stories before that. I’m, currently, 25 years old.
I hated reading and writing, so I’ve never attempted to create stories in my life until 2-3 years ago. I didn’t attend classes or workshops or college to learn to how to write, I simply wrote. At 22 years old I was able to write stories on par with MFA graduates (and, no, I do NOT take pride in that, I’m simply setting up a point).
Having no previous “love of writing from childhood,” like most people claim, I wrote stories off pure talent, without knowing that I had any. I didn’t “live much of a life”, but the only thing I can say about my writing back then was that I had absolutely NO SKILL whatsoever. I had no skill in the craft and I’m able to write in par with these graduates? My stories were okay enough to be considered full of potential without me having to practice a day in my life? I wrote about my heartbreak and life in the city. Experience wasn’t the issue…completely. All I heard from people who read my “immature” stories was that I needed to PRACTICE. Not live more….practice.
It wasn’t experience I needed, it was skill – experience isn’t strived for, it’s automatically a given and granted, simply by living life. Skill, in my humble opinion, is not primarily gained through experience but through training – through focused practice. Sure, those stories would have been more ‘interesting’ had I had more experiences, meaning more to talk about with depth, but a broad range of life experiences weren’t needed for me to write the stuff I did. My experiences as a teenager are just as relatable and valuable to a reader, regardless of their age, as a 60 year old war veteran’s. What sets his story apart from mine? Experience?
No.
Ability to tell it?
Most likely.
Experience doesn’t make you a better writer than someone else, a combination of skill and understanding of your subject – which experience can grant, but isn’t necessary – is what I believe allows your writing to stand out as “mature.” Experience is nothing more than a bonus for credibility.
Btw, I like your blog.